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I'm cleaning my email when I saw this in my inbox. It's a forwarded email from mommy mace, she sent it to me 5 years ago.... wow!that's half a decade already but I'm still keeping it :) I usually keep nice emails from family and friends, and this one are of them. It's kinda long but it's worth to read :)

"My greatest fear in life is neither death nor not ever finding my ideal
woman. Rather, it's finding the exact opposite of my ideals, living and
falling madly in love with her, and casting all else aside. Some days, it's
the scariest thought that keeps me awake in the wee small hours of the
morning. Love is an adrenaline rush, an exhilarating roller coaster ride
that makes you brave enough to dare and dream. It a wonderful experience to
feel it. It brings you happiness, jealousy, sadness, excitement and every
other emotion that makes you human and feel alive. Here are my two-cents
worth of learning from loving.

Love has to be tested. As fire purifies gold, trials and difficulties can
either strengthen the love you feel or ultimately show you that this love
isn't true. It's always easy to love a person when everything between you is
calm and okay. However, it is difficult to love someone when you are going
through tough times. It's difficult to love a person when the world seems to
pull the two of you in different directions. If you are able to rise above
the challenges, with your love for each other unwavering, then consider
yourself, blessed beyond measure.

Love is defined by balanced exposure. You can't really be sure if love is
what you feel if you're always together doing the same things. You'll know
it's love if after being away from each other for some time, if after
meeting different people and if after pursuing your own passions in life,
and you still carry the torch for the same man or woman, that's love.
Absence makes the heart grow fonder. Sometimes, you need to give the other
person the time and the space to think things through, to finally put the
gray areas of your relationship in black and white, to hear his thoughts
more clearly, and of course, to miss you.

Love is acceptance. Love is not about "Superman Complex." You don't love a
person because you think he needs rescuing. You can't change a person; you
can only love that person enough to make him want to be a better man or
woman. Love doesn't have to feel like you're settling. It's about feeling
like you've just found one of the world's greatest treasures and not wanting
to exchange it for anything in the world. Someday, someone funnier, sweeter,
richer, more responsible, much more charming, much more beautiful would come
along. Unless you find the person you love perfect just the way he is,
perfect in his own imperfection, you would never be contented and happy in
this relationship.

Love really begins with friendship and familiarity. I used to think that
platonic relationships gone romantic, is like putting vinegar in congee. It
makes something warm and comfortable, sour. I was foolish in believing that
familiarity breeds contempt. I guess, I know better now. The only way to say
that you truly love a person is if you know him and what better way to do it
than being friends. It relieves you the pressure of being at your best all
the time, of being too perfect, of being too good. No pretenses. Seeing the
flaws in a person will help you asses if this is a person you see yourself
growing old with, someone you think you could listen to, someone you can
respect. If the love of your life is also your best friend, I think it's one
of the best evidences that God does exist and looking out for you. So often,
he or she has become a source of encouragement and comfort, warm feelings or
a good laugh, just at the right moment. Often, talking to that person helps
you hear your thoughts better and figure out the answers you need.

Love is not automatic but manual. You need to work it! Love is tough and it
needs hard work. Love is like a rose. You need to take care of it or else,
it dies. You need to decide and love that person even on days when he's
absolutely unlovable, on days when he absolutely drives away every drop for
sanity in you, and on days when you just want the earth to swallow you
alive. I guess, Love is a lifetime effort.

After all these learning, it's difficult to imagine why I'm still loveless.
Well, I'm only loveless, not hopeless. Love moves in mysterious ways and I
truly believe that a wonderful blessing is on its way to find me.

IT'S TRUE THAT LOVE CAN WAIT FOREVER, BUT IT IS CRAZY TO STUBBORNLY HOPE FOR
SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T EVEN CARE OR UNDERSTAND HOW YOU FEEL.

Love makes us see the things through rose- colored glasses. Most of the
time, we fail to recognize the danger signs that light up along our way.
This feeling you have nurtured for so long isn't healthy anymore. You must
realize that you have to let go now before it consumes you and your sanity.
There is always a time to think and stop. A time to be sensible and not to
allow our hearts to rule over our heads.

YOU DESERVE TO BE HAPPY NOT IN THE ARMS OF A MAN OR WOMAN WHO KEEPS YOU
WAITING BUT IN THE ARMS OF SOMEONE WHO WILL TAKE YOU NOW AND LOVE YOU
FOREVER.

If loving a person who is attached to someone else is a crime, then, maybe,
many of us would have been jailed long before we realize what the
consequences could have been. Loving someone is never a sin...it's what
people do out of love that sometimes makes it all wrong. The selfish desire
to want that person is what makes it a sin.

DON'T THINK ONLY OF YOUR FEELINGS FOR REAL LOVE DOESN'T HAVE A PLACE FOR
SELFISH PEOPLE.




When there is love, there is always sacrifice. When we love someone, we
never easily give up on that person. Even if we get hurt badly, we always
try to find a way to ease the pain and learn to understand and forgive.

Loving too much doesn't hurt...it is when we expect this love to be
reciprocated that we begin to seek approval and acceptance of the things we
have done and when we are taken for granted and rejected, we curse the very same love that we once freely and happily offered.

DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME WAITING FOR SOMEONE WHO NEVER REALLY CARED ABOUT HOW
YOU WOULD HAVE FELT. OPEN YOUR HEART AGAIN AND GIVE YOURSELF THE CHANCE TO
FIND THE ONE WHO WOULD MAKE LOVING WORTH THE PAIN AND THE
SACRIFICE.
~ so true!! faye

Just like anything else, our love grows weak and dies, if not taken cared
of. It can keep up with pain only to a certain extent. Beyond that, it
withers without any hope of recovery and soon dies.

GOD WAKES US IN THE MIDST OF A STORM TO TEACH US A LESSON. HE TAKES AWAY
PEOPLE WE LOVE SO WE CAN LEARN TO VALUE LOVE ITSELF. HE MAKES US CRY SO HARD
SO WE CAN SEE CLEARLY WHEN WE OPEN OUR EYES. HE MAKES US BITTER SO WE CAN
REALIZE THAT THERE IS NO GENUINE HAPPINESS IF WE THINK ONLY OF OUR OWN
NEEDS.

~ I thank god for all the trials that came into my life :) And I thank the Lord for giving me a good, loving, sweet,faithful and responsible husband :) As long as he's with me I'm complete :)